Thursday, May 28, 2009
New Band, New Post #1
As some of you observant blog readers might be able to tell, yes, I have changed my featured band, I know it's about time!!! Unfortunately, I haven't had time to write a new blog post about this band. I have some info to sort through and create a fabulous write up about them. I plan to have it up by the end of the weekend. I hope next time I can hopefully find a new band sooner than this, I have no doubt in my mind. I need to find/make the time to browse bands and music and if I can't get the band to answer my questions, then I'll write about them anyways. I just find that it is always better to do a write up when the band has some input. I know this probably doesn't satisfy all of your interests, but it's a work in progress. Anyway, I'll have this post done soon and i hope you all check it out!
Monday, May 18, 2009
A Lesson to be Learned
I'm going to just let this one all out. It's something that needs to be said, but I'm still reeling in anger from it all so I'm sorry if it comes across as something other than what is intended, which is a lesson to be learned.
This past Sunday night I was at a party, *Brandon was there and meeting my friends for the first time. Things were going well until my friend's little sister's party got out of hand and my other friend's cell phone and my ipod speakers got stolen by one of the miscreants in that group. Let's just say that me saying I was furious is not even close to describing how I felt and still feel about it all!!!! Also, at the end of the night, things got physical with *Brandon, and not in a a good way either! There was pushing and kicking and screaming involved. I'm really happy my friends were around when it happened and that they were there to back me up! I mean I can for sure take care of myself, but having 10 of my best friends around to support me and protect me was the best possible scenario for it to all go down. Don't worry I'm not hurt and nothing is broken except his ego. He was drunk and I had moved him out of my way first, with plenty of warning that he needed to get out of my way and let me pass, all of which went unheeded..that isn't an excuse though and I know that, but has since said he was sorry for what he did. Sorry does not cut it in these situations! It just doesn't!!!!. ..I really do have the best friends that a girl could as for!!!!!! Things are done and over with this guy and I don't intend to see him again. For all you ladies out there reading this, just know that NO guy has a right to lay their hands on you and not that that gives you the right to touch them either, but under no circumstance should you ever feel like it was your fault that you got hit or pushed or whatever. We are stronger than that and we deserve better!!!!!!!..I really do love all my friends! Thanks for everything guys!!!!
Despite what has gone down, I'm not entirely turned off by the notion of online dating. I know a few people who have met really decent partners online and that have gone into serious relationships with the people behind the online profiles. I don't think it's a bad thing at all, I think it's just something that should not be entered into lightly. People should be aware of the possible dangers of online dating, as was I.
A few words of advice: 1)Always meet in public first, second, third times. After the third date or so, Make it a point to introduce them to your Friends. We all know that we value our friend's opinions but when it comes to online dating, seeing how they act around your friends and the people that you trust the most is important because they may be putting a front on for you and act differently when around others. 2)Trust your gut. If something feels wrong, ask questions. find out answers and never ever be afraid to stand up for yourself. 3) Don't let them pressure you into anything your don't want to do. if it feels right, do whatever you want. If it doesn't, then say good night and walk away. 4)With that being said, I don't regret sleeping with him because at the time things felt right. I don't regret anything that happened between us prior to this event. Shit happens and you have to learn to deal with it, but unless something tragic or life altering takes place, such as injury, death, pregnancy, etc., don't let things that you have done be regrets. take them as lessons to be learned and remember and know better for the next time. Nothing in life should be truly regret because there is always something to be learned from every experience.
On a few lighter notes, to be honest, I'm happy to be single right now:). I get to do what I want and possibly with whoever I want. i intend to go to concerts and on this upcoming trip to the UK and meet new people and expedience new things. I'm young and ready and willing to take what comes my way and take life by the horns! Also, I know I mentioned this before, but I am still trying to write a new Featured Band post.I'm been trying to get in contact with some bands that I want to feature and see if they'll answer my questions so that I can write a band writeup similar to the one that I was able to do for Your Favorite Ex. I'm hoping to have it up soon!
*Name Has been changed to protect their privacy.
This past Sunday night I was at a party, *Brandon was there and meeting my friends for the first time. Things were going well until my friend's little sister's party got out of hand and my other friend's cell phone and my ipod speakers got stolen by one of the miscreants in that group. Let's just say that me saying I was furious is not even close to describing how I felt and still feel about it all!!!! Also, at the end of the night, things got physical with *Brandon, and not in a a good way either! There was pushing and kicking and screaming involved. I'm really happy my friends were around when it happened and that they were there to back me up! I mean I can for sure take care of myself, but having 10 of my best friends around to support me and protect me was the best possible scenario for it to all go down. Don't worry I'm not hurt and nothing is broken except his ego. He was drunk and I had moved him out of my way first, with plenty of warning that he needed to get out of my way and let me pass, all of which went unheeded..that isn't an excuse though and I know that, but has since said he was sorry for what he did. Sorry does not cut it in these situations! It just doesn't!!!!. ..I really do have the best friends that a girl could as for!!!!!! Things are done and over with this guy and I don't intend to see him again. For all you ladies out there reading this, just know that NO guy has a right to lay their hands on you and not that that gives you the right to touch them either, but under no circumstance should you ever feel like it was your fault that you got hit or pushed or whatever. We are stronger than that and we deserve better!!!!!!!..I really do love all my friends! Thanks for everything guys!!!!
Despite what has gone down, I'm not entirely turned off by the notion of online dating. I know a few people who have met really decent partners online and that have gone into serious relationships with the people behind the online profiles. I don't think it's a bad thing at all, I think it's just something that should not be entered into lightly. People should be aware of the possible dangers of online dating, as was I.
A few words of advice: 1)Always meet in public first, second, third times. After the third date or so, Make it a point to introduce them to your Friends. We all know that we value our friend's opinions but when it comes to online dating, seeing how they act around your friends and the people that you trust the most is important because they may be putting a front on for you and act differently when around others. 2)Trust your gut. If something feels wrong, ask questions. find out answers and never ever be afraid to stand up for yourself. 3) Don't let them pressure you into anything your don't want to do. if it feels right, do whatever you want. If it doesn't, then say good night and walk away. 4)With that being said, I don't regret sleeping with him because at the time things felt right. I don't regret anything that happened between us prior to this event. Shit happens and you have to learn to deal with it, but unless something tragic or life altering takes place, such as injury, death, pregnancy, etc., don't let things that you have done be regrets. take them as lessons to be learned and remember and know better for the next time. Nothing in life should be truly regret because there is always something to be learned from every experience.
On a few lighter notes, to be honest, I'm happy to be single right now:). I get to do what I want and possibly with whoever I want. i intend to go to concerts and on this upcoming trip to the UK and meet new people and expedience new things. I'm young and ready and willing to take what comes my way and take life by the horns! Also, I know I mentioned this before, but I am still trying to write a new Featured Band post.I'm been trying to get in contact with some bands that I want to feature and see if they'll answer my questions so that I can write a band writeup similar to the one that I was able to do for Your Favorite Ex. I'm hoping to have it up soon!
*Name Has been changed to protect their privacy.
Thursday, May 14, 2009
Been M.I.A. - Here's Why...
Ok, so it's been a while since my last blog. I have good reason for this...I've been busy. See? I think that constitutes a good enough reason, don't you?:) So reality check, true I have been busy, also true, I've been avoiding writing a blog until I had something good to say. I think now would be a good time to write a new blog as I am currently in better spirits then I was last week. I promise I'll be making up for my lack of blogging with this post.
WARNING: This is a VERY LONG post.. A lot to tell you all about!
The main reason why I've been so busy is that fact that I honestly have been with work. Any time off that I have had i have tried to spend it with friends that I haven't seen in while who just came back from school. Also, I've been putting myself back out there on the hunt for the right male spcimen to pass my way. So far so good. I've gone out on a few dates with this guy *Brandon.
*Brandon and I met online and then decided to meet up in person and unlike the previous online guy, we met up the next day. We ended up going to a movie and having a really great time. The movie finished early so we went back to his place and hung out for a while, as it was closer to the theater. Things started getting hot and heavy and despite the fact that it was our first metting, first encounter, first date...we almost had sex. Now I couldn't go through with it and have sex on the first date. Granted, I have had sex with a guy within 24 hrs of meeting him, but we had met under different circumstances. For whatever reason, I didn't feel that under these circumstances it was appropriate to have sex that night, and the nice guy that he is, he understood and respected my wishes. That is not to say that it didn't get far enough anyways.;) We did other things that night, none of which I regret. We then decided to meet up again the next opportunity possible, which was 2 days after.
On our second date, we went out to dinner and had some really nice food. We split the meal as neither of us were all that hungry; he paid. It's a nice change having someone treat me well. I'm not entirely used to it at all. This could be why early on I was unsure. I was unsure about whether or not I liked him. Whether or not he was vocal enough for me and outgoing enough. Nonetheless, we went out for dessert and actually ended up meeting with one of my best friends downtown for a bit at the dessert place. Ultimately, we ended up back at his place again, sex ensued.
At the end of the night on our second date, something had happened and I was very emotional and still not sure. All week we kept talking and I decided to give him another shot. I like him, I do, it was more just a question of how much. We met up a week after the second date for another movie, also which ended early and due to the day of the week, nothing was open thus leading us back to his house to hang out. I wasn't sure if having sex again was the best idea considering all week I was emotional and tired and barely slept since I had had a lot on my mind and what had happened the week before had brought a lot of emotions to the surface, more so about my ex and how I don't know if I can ever really get over him because unlike previous men in my life, I didn't get the answers that I needed. i still don't have them. Unlike previous men, my latest ex hasn't spoken to me, leaving me very unsure and uncertain and until i get answers or I find another guy, I may never be able to fully get over him and move on, but that's information for another post perhaps?
Back to *Brandon. Due to the overwhelming emotions, I didn't feet it wise to have sex another night, on there third date. Despite this, one thing led to another and long story short, we had sex again. i don't regret it at all. None of the amazing, heart racing, noise making (and thus fearing of his parent walking in - yes he is living at home again, but it is only temporary, really!) pounding sex. I do not regret it one bit! In fact, in all reality, i think the fact that before things got really heated, he was turned on and it got to the point of him wanting t and I was still sure about not having it, we stopped and talked. I think the fact that the way things were moving led to a discussion before hand was important. he needed to know what I was generally feeling and why I wasn't up for sex. After that i didn't stop him from doing anything he wanted to himself, leading me to get turned on as a result, therefore, once again leading to sex. I'm apparently quite the workout, according to him, something that I take as a compliment.:) What does this all mean in the end? Well, despite the sex, we are taking things slow. We are just dating at the moment and seeing what happens, if nothing else he's a great guy that I'd like to remain freinds with. Speaking of freinds, he's meeting them this weekend, each and every one of them, at a friend's BBQ...wish me luck!!!
*Name Has been changed to protect their privacy.
Ps, new featured band post coming up soon! Stay tuned!!!
WARNING: This is a VERY LONG post.. A lot to tell you all about!
The main reason why I've been so busy is that fact that I honestly have been with work. Any time off that I have had i have tried to spend it with friends that I haven't seen in while who just came back from school. Also, I've been putting myself back out there on the hunt for the right male spcimen to pass my way. So far so good. I've gone out on a few dates with this guy *Brandon.
*Brandon and I met online and then decided to meet up in person and unlike the previous online guy, we met up the next day. We ended up going to a movie and having a really great time. The movie finished early so we went back to his place and hung out for a while, as it was closer to the theater. Things started getting hot and heavy and despite the fact that it was our first metting, first encounter, first date...we almost had sex. Now I couldn't go through with it and have sex on the first date. Granted, I have had sex with a guy within 24 hrs of meeting him, but we had met under different circumstances. For whatever reason, I didn't feel that under these circumstances it was appropriate to have sex that night, and the nice guy that he is, he understood and respected my wishes. That is not to say that it didn't get far enough anyways.;) We did other things that night, none of which I regret. We then decided to meet up again the next opportunity possible, which was 2 days after.
On our second date, we went out to dinner and had some really nice food. We split the meal as neither of us were all that hungry; he paid. It's a nice change having someone treat me well. I'm not entirely used to it at all. This could be why early on I was unsure. I was unsure about whether or not I liked him. Whether or not he was vocal enough for me and outgoing enough. Nonetheless, we went out for dessert and actually ended up meeting with one of my best friends downtown for a bit at the dessert place. Ultimately, we ended up back at his place again, sex ensued.
At the end of the night on our second date, something had happened and I was very emotional and still not sure. All week we kept talking and I decided to give him another shot. I like him, I do, it was more just a question of how much. We met up a week after the second date for another movie, also which ended early and due to the day of the week, nothing was open thus leading us back to his house to hang out. I wasn't sure if having sex again was the best idea considering all week I was emotional and tired and barely slept since I had had a lot on my mind and what had happened the week before had brought a lot of emotions to the surface, more so about my ex and how I don't know if I can ever really get over him because unlike previous men in my life, I didn't get the answers that I needed. i still don't have them. Unlike previous men, my latest ex hasn't spoken to me, leaving me very unsure and uncertain and until i get answers or I find another guy, I may never be able to fully get over him and move on, but that's information for another post perhaps?
Back to *Brandon. Due to the overwhelming emotions, I didn't feet it wise to have sex another night, on there third date. Despite this, one thing led to another and long story short, we had sex again. i don't regret it at all. None of the amazing, heart racing, noise making (and thus fearing of his parent walking in - yes he is living at home again, but it is only temporary, really!) pounding sex. I do not regret it one bit! In fact, in all reality, i think the fact that before things got really heated, he was turned on and it got to the point of him wanting t and I was still sure about not having it, we stopped and talked. I think the fact that the way things were moving led to a discussion before hand was important. he needed to know what I was generally feeling and why I wasn't up for sex. After that i didn't stop him from doing anything he wanted to himself, leading me to get turned on as a result, therefore, once again leading to sex. I'm apparently quite the workout, according to him, something that I take as a compliment.:) What does this all mean in the end? Well, despite the sex, we are taking things slow. We are just dating at the moment and seeing what happens, if nothing else he's a great guy that I'd like to remain freinds with. Speaking of freinds, he's meeting them this weekend, each and every one of them, at a friend's BBQ...wish me luck!!!
*Name Has been changed to protect their privacy.
Ps, new featured band post coming up soon! Stay tuned!!!
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