Everyday should be a special day to spend with someone that you love. This is true for most people, yet we have this one day specifically designated to love called Valentine's Day. Listed Herein are some tips to help you make it through this season of love.
For most people, Valentine's day is a reason to acknowledge one's love for another special someone in their lives. For others, Valentine's Day is a representation of corporate influence over the populous to buy cards, candy and flowers for others. Perhaps it is a combination thereof. in either case, there are a few things to keep in mind on this special day.
For starters, part of the problem with Valentine's Day is that if you don't have someone special in your life, there is a certain stignma that comes with being alone. It's unfortunate, but true. In these circumstances it usually helps to have friends in the same situation, therefore you don't feel so alone.
If there is no on who you can share this day with in the same situation, the best alternative is to see if you can organize a group thing. Maybe not a whole day event if your friends have other people to spend time with also, but perhaps instead a special lunch, dinner, or even a shorter coffee date so that you don't spend the whole day alone sulking. These are usually good ways to not feed too lonely and isolated on Valentine's day.
On the other hand, some people fee a significant amount of pressure to make plans and make a big deal out of that day itself. They feel that because it is a day designated for love, they not only have to have a date, no matter who it is, but also to have elaborate plans. if you fall into this category, there is nothing wrong with that either. Just try to remember that everyday should be special and love should be shared all year round so don't concentrate all your loving for someone to this one day. Spread the wealth:)
If you do choose to make plans, try to take into account your partner's feelings. For example, if they are not normally someone who likes to go out for dinner, maybe plan to stay in a cook them a special romantic dinner at home, spending a bit more time lingering at the table over a bottle of wine than you normally would. Also, try to flexible in you making of plans. Things come up and could change the events of the evening. It isn't always good to be to dead-set on sticking to the plans that have been previously made. Sometimes the best Valentine's Days that occur are the ones that are the most spontaneous anyways!
If you are one of those people who really feel more comfortable making set plans and sticking to them, such as dinner reservations, it is important to remember that Valentine's Day is one of the busiest days of the year for restaurants so try to make a reservation well ahead of time otherwise you might be out of luck. this is really good advice for those of you who really want to go out and maybe get away from the kids or the roommates..plan ahead!
Aren't one for making big plans well ahead of time? Try being different than all the rest and maybe make plants to make dinner at home that doesn't require a lot of planning or stay in and rent some movies instead of going out like most people plan to do.
At the end of the day, the most important tip to adhere to is to listen to your heart and do what feels right for you and your partner. After all, it is Valnetine's Day and your heart is the most important part of it.
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Monday, February 8, 2010
Thursday, May 14, 2009
Been M.I.A. - Here's Why...
Ok, so it's been a while since my last blog. I have good reason for this...I've been busy. See? I think that constitutes a good enough reason, don't you?:) So reality check, true I have been busy, also true, I've been avoiding writing a blog until I had something good to say. I think now would be a good time to write a new blog as I am currently in better spirits then I was last week. I promise I'll be making up for my lack of blogging with this post.
WARNING: This is a VERY LONG post.. A lot to tell you all about!
The main reason why I've been so busy is that fact that I honestly have been with work. Any time off that I have had i have tried to spend it with friends that I haven't seen in while who just came back from school. Also, I've been putting myself back out there on the hunt for the right male spcimen to pass my way. So far so good. I've gone out on a few dates with this guy *Brandon.
*Brandon and I met online and then decided to meet up in person and unlike the previous online guy, we met up the next day. We ended up going to a movie and having a really great time. The movie finished early so we went back to his place and hung out for a while, as it was closer to the theater. Things started getting hot and heavy and despite the fact that it was our first metting, first encounter, first date...we almost had sex. Now I couldn't go through with it and have sex on the first date. Granted, I have had sex with a guy within 24 hrs of meeting him, but we had met under different circumstances. For whatever reason, I didn't feel that under these circumstances it was appropriate to have sex that night, and the nice guy that he is, he understood and respected my wishes. That is not to say that it didn't get far enough anyways.;) We did other things that night, none of which I regret. We then decided to meet up again the next opportunity possible, which was 2 days after.
On our second date, we went out to dinner and had some really nice food. We split the meal as neither of us were all that hungry; he paid. It's a nice change having someone treat me well. I'm not entirely used to it at all. This could be why early on I was unsure. I was unsure about whether or not I liked him. Whether or not he was vocal enough for me and outgoing enough. Nonetheless, we went out for dessert and actually ended up meeting with one of my best friends downtown for a bit at the dessert place. Ultimately, we ended up back at his place again, sex ensued.
At the end of the night on our second date, something had happened and I was very emotional and still not sure. All week we kept talking and I decided to give him another shot. I like him, I do, it was more just a question of how much. We met up a week after the second date for another movie, also which ended early and due to the day of the week, nothing was open thus leading us back to his house to hang out. I wasn't sure if having sex again was the best idea considering all week I was emotional and tired and barely slept since I had had a lot on my mind and what had happened the week before had brought a lot of emotions to the surface, more so about my ex and how I don't know if I can ever really get over him because unlike previous men in my life, I didn't get the answers that I needed. i still don't have them. Unlike previous men, my latest ex hasn't spoken to me, leaving me very unsure and uncertain and until i get answers or I find another guy, I may never be able to fully get over him and move on, but that's information for another post perhaps?
Back to *Brandon. Due to the overwhelming emotions, I didn't feet it wise to have sex another night, on there third date. Despite this, one thing led to another and long story short, we had sex again. i don't regret it at all. None of the amazing, heart racing, noise making (and thus fearing of his parent walking in - yes he is living at home again, but it is only temporary, really!) pounding sex. I do not regret it one bit! In fact, in all reality, i think the fact that before things got really heated, he was turned on and it got to the point of him wanting t and I was still sure about not having it, we stopped and talked. I think the fact that the way things were moving led to a discussion before hand was important. he needed to know what I was generally feeling and why I wasn't up for sex. After that i didn't stop him from doing anything he wanted to himself, leading me to get turned on as a result, therefore, once again leading to sex. I'm apparently quite the workout, according to him, something that I take as a compliment.:) What does this all mean in the end? Well, despite the sex, we are taking things slow. We are just dating at the moment and seeing what happens, if nothing else he's a great guy that I'd like to remain freinds with. Speaking of freinds, he's meeting them this weekend, each and every one of them, at a friend's BBQ...wish me luck!!!
*Name Has been changed to protect their privacy.
Ps, new featured band post coming up soon! Stay tuned!!!
WARNING: This is a VERY LONG post.. A lot to tell you all about!
The main reason why I've been so busy is that fact that I honestly have been with work. Any time off that I have had i have tried to spend it with friends that I haven't seen in while who just came back from school. Also, I've been putting myself back out there on the hunt for the right male spcimen to pass my way. So far so good. I've gone out on a few dates with this guy *Brandon.
*Brandon and I met online and then decided to meet up in person and unlike the previous online guy, we met up the next day. We ended up going to a movie and having a really great time. The movie finished early so we went back to his place and hung out for a while, as it was closer to the theater. Things started getting hot and heavy and despite the fact that it was our first metting, first encounter, first date...we almost had sex. Now I couldn't go through with it and have sex on the first date. Granted, I have had sex with a guy within 24 hrs of meeting him, but we had met under different circumstances. For whatever reason, I didn't feel that under these circumstances it was appropriate to have sex that night, and the nice guy that he is, he understood and respected my wishes. That is not to say that it didn't get far enough anyways.;) We did other things that night, none of which I regret. We then decided to meet up again the next opportunity possible, which was 2 days after.
On our second date, we went out to dinner and had some really nice food. We split the meal as neither of us were all that hungry; he paid. It's a nice change having someone treat me well. I'm not entirely used to it at all. This could be why early on I was unsure. I was unsure about whether or not I liked him. Whether or not he was vocal enough for me and outgoing enough. Nonetheless, we went out for dessert and actually ended up meeting with one of my best friends downtown for a bit at the dessert place. Ultimately, we ended up back at his place again, sex ensued.
At the end of the night on our second date, something had happened and I was very emotional and still not sure. All week we kept talking and I decided to give him another shot. I like him, I do, it was more just a question of how much. We met up a week after the second date for another movie, also which ended early and due to the day of the week, nothing was open thus leading us back to his house to hang out. I wasn't sure if having sex again was the best idea considering all week I was emotional and tired and barely slept since I had had a lot on my mind and what had happened the week before had brought a lot of emotions to the surface, more so about my ex and how I don't know if I can ever really get over him because unlike previous men in my life, I didn't get the answers that I needed. i still don't have them. Unlike previous men, my latest ex hasn't spoken to me, leaving me very unsure and uncertain and until i get answers or I find another guy, I may never be able to fully get over him and move on, but that's information for another post perhaps?
Back to *Brandon. Due to the overwhelming emotions, I didn't feet it wise to have sex another night, on there third date. Despite this, one thing led to another and long story short, we had sex again. i don't regret it at all. None of the amazing, heart racing, noise making (and thus fearing of his parent walking in - yes he is living at home again, but it is only temporary, really!) pounding sex. I do not regret it one bit! In fact, in all reality, i think the fact that before things got really heated, he was turned on and it got to the point of him wanting t and I was still sure about not having it, we stopped and talked. I think the fact that the way things were moving led to a discussion before hand was important. he needed to know what I was generally feeling and why I wasn't up for sex. After that i didn't stop him from doing anything he wanted to himself, leading me to get turned on as a result, therefore, once again leading to sex. I'm apparently quite the workout, according to him, something that I take as a compliment.:) What does this all mean in the end? Well, despite the sex, we are taking things slow. We are just dating at the moment and seeing what happens, if nothing else he's a great guy that I'd like to remain freinds with. Speaking of freinds, he's meeting them this weekend, each and every one of them, at a friend's BBQ...wish me luck!!!
*Name Has been changed to protect their privacy.
Ps, new featured band post coming up soon! Stay tuned!!!
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